Daily life is challenging! Having four children is not easy! I would never change our life, but sometimes I wonder what it would be like if we only had one child... For example, what would it be like if Aliza were an only child? Would she be less aggressive? Would she not seek attention in negative ways? Would she have not have developed such excellent verbal skills because she would not have her brother as a role model?
What about Trevor and Ella? What would their life be like as only children, or without a sibling with a disability? They certainly would have fewer battles in their day to day tasks, they would not be screamed at by their sister. They would not be hit as often and there would be fewer tears shed over toys being taken without asking.
As a family, dinner time would likely be a bit easier with only one child... the yelling and crying about where to sit, what cup is whose, waiting until everyone is finished, etc. All of this would probably make things easier. Right??? But do I want things easier.... the answer is NO!
Our family is perfect! To an outside I can see where one might think that this life is nothing short of crazy. We are busy from the time we wake up in the morning to the time we are woken up in the middle of the night. Someone is always needing something. There is constant noise in our house. Our home is not the place to come to escape. You will like have two kids pushing eachother for space in your lap, one child trying to get you to play games, the other needing a diaper change, someone spilling their drink, a dog drinking out of the toilet and chasing the cat and a cat howling at all hours of the day and night.
With any part of this picture missing, our lives would not be the same. Our children know how to love! Even though Aliza can be challenging, when she tells you she loves you, you know she means it. It absolutely makes my heart melt. When Trevor puts his arm around one of his sisters to help them, I forget about how rough he can be sometimes. When the laundry is backed up, toys are strewn from room to room and the kitchen floors has crushed cheerios, I remind myself how lucky I am to have such a wonderful family to have created thoses messes.
